5 Ways of Looking at Depression

The mental and sometimes physical experience of pain embedded in depression drives patients, their loved ones, and many treatment providers to seek a uniform understanding of depression’s causes. I think it’s misguided to provide one. There is no unified theory of depression, and there may never be. But the journey towards understanding your own depression is often the more important half of the journey to recovery because it leads to greater insights and understanding of yourself and revives the ability to create meaning and actively write your own story. Below I’ve highlighted some of the models that I find useful in understanding what causes and perpetuates depression. In the future I will use these perspectives as a jumping off point for identifying treatment strategies and developing plans for recovery.

Emotional Blockage

People are meant to experience the full range of basic emotions frequently and fully. Think of it as exercise for your limbic system. There's some debate over what constitutes the emotional palette but a good place to start is these four: sadness, enjoyment, anger, and fear (or let's say worry, if you're toxically masculine and "allergic to fear"). Some might add surprise and disgust to this list, but I usually focus on the Big Four. There are exceptions but I find that most people who, for whatever reason, either don't experience one of these emotions or devote too much mental energy to avoiding it end up in some flavor of psychological trouble. Sometimes that trouble is addiction or other bad habits but very often it's depression. That emotional flatness and emptiness that's often associated with depression? Often that's the result of a blockage, like a river that's been dammed up.

And this might sound strange but I think that the emotion that goes "missing" most often in depression is actually sadness. I know that might sound counter-intuitive but try this mental exercise. Think about someone you love dying. Maybe it's your fault, but nobody knows that. And now imagine that you're unable to feel sad or cry about it, think about how that would feel in your body. Now imagine that after months you were able to talk to someone and unburden your guilt about the death and finally cry and be filled with that sadness and achieve closure. That kind of cleansing emotional intensity is called "catharsis" by the way. I hope this example helps you understand how the lack of sadness can lead to depression and how that might feel. But why does it happen?

I believe the number one culprit is the fear of sadness. This is especially common in people who experience chronic clinical depression. Sadness can be a core experience of depression. And people who have experienced severe clinical depression are almost always traumatized by it on some level. Or at the very least they're sick and tired of feeling sad, they're over it. So they do their best to avoid feeling sad. There are many strategies people use. One is distraction: when a sad thought enters the mind, think of something else. Look at your phone. Do some work. Daydream. Look at your phone. Look at your phone. A more advanced tactic is called displacement, transforming one emotion into another. Usually if the initial or base emotion is something perceived as unpleasant then it's easier if the new emotion is a little unpleasant too. Transforming sadness into anger generally just requires finding something or someone to blame. And guess what? You can even blame yourself! But fear is also an easy option if your whole motivation for avoiding sadness is because you're afraid of it. Just lean into that fear and make some catastrophic stories up about it and soon enough you can make those stories true as the paralysis sets in and the world darkens around you. But maybe the most direct and effective way to avoid sadness, for those who are capable, is dissociation. That emptiness, that feeling of alienation from yourself, that sense of distance and coldness emitted by the world, that numbness and strange heaviness in the body, they have a flavor that can distort sadness beyond recognition. And usually dissociation is a skill learned by those who experience trauma, isolation, and depression in childhood.

Don't get me wrong, the avoidance of anger can also be a major factor in depression. You ever heard the term "wallowing in sadness"? Well there's nothing wrong with throwing on the Portishead or Patsy and just letting the vibes take over now and then. Again, feeling sadness sometimes is very healthy! But when sadness becomes your go-to safe and comfortable emotion that can set you up for problems. For many people anger is absolutely the most horrible emotion to experience. For one thing it can sometimes feel out-of-control or lead to serious consequences like hurting someone or losing a relationship. And this can lead to a fear of anger. Anger is also a taboo in many families and people are taught that they are weak or selfish or evil even for feeling it, and certainly for expressing it. And sometimes people learn to hate anger because of their horrible experiences with other people's cruel and punitive anger. When anger is misplaced into sadness long enough then people usually end up vacillating between extremes of guilt and self-blame on the one hand and self-pity and feelings of victimhood on the other. Because remember, anger is closely tied to blame. And when we lose the ability to assign and respond to blame in a conscious and empowered way, we start to feel powerless, we lose agency. Sounds pretty depressing right?

Learned Helplessness

Animals can't fill out surveys. They can't self-report. So it can be hard to measure their emotions, much less somewhat more abstract ideas like depression. Because antidepressants and other medicines generally have to be tested for safety first on animals, this means scientists had to figure out the best ways to understand and measure animal depression, preferably through something that can be observed in a non-invasive way like behavior. And so they developed the Learned Helplessness model. Basically, many animals can be trained that in certain situations, nothing they do matters. They will either be unable to get something they want or unable to avoid something they don't want. They will give up. And sometimes it stops there: a lesson learned in a certain situation. They stopped banging their head against the wall. Seems like a sign of intelligence, right? But sometimes the animal will start to generalize that experience to other situations. They will start to give up in a more globalized way. They will assume that there is nothing they can do to achieve their goal. They have learned helplessness. And scientists have found that often when you give an animal in this state an antidepressant, it will reverse this state. They will start treading water, or running through mazes, or pushing buttons again. They will take action to seek reward or avoid consequence. They're cured!

As a therapist, when I'm assessing depression I focus quite a bit on concepts like powerlessness, hopelessness, and helplessness. I also focus on the broader concept of negative thinking and beliefs about the power of choice and action to achieve results. And what I'm mostly looking for is learned helplessness. The world is not a perfect laboratory and people develop learned helplessness through a complex interaction between their temperament, their upbringing, and their situation. Some people seem totally immune to “helpless” thinking and maintain a (naive?) hope no matter the odds. They just won't quit. If anyone has an immunity to depression it may be these folks. But most of us are much more responsive to rewards and consequences in our environment. And that can be highly adaptive until we find ourselves in a situation where the reward structure strains the limits of our belief system. Then suddenly we can feel very trapped and believe that we lack the ability to escape. This can lead to either a freakout or a collapse or some combination of the two, and these reactions often reinforce the barriers in our situation.

When learned helplessness is at the core of depression, usually actions need to be taken to alleviate the sense of isolation and stuckness. The problem is that learned helplessness reinforces the belief that these actions don't matter or are too hard. And to be honest some of the more organic symptoms of depression like fatigue, poor focus, and mental slowing can really interfere with planning and action. Also one major feature of depression called anhedonia can make it difficult to perceive the emotional rewards that normally come from actions like pursuing our interests. Usually I find that someone who is even in a therapy session has already started on their journey of recovery from learned helplessness because they are seeking help at all. When there is nobody to interrogate or push back against our negative beliefs it is easy for them to self-reinforce. Those negative beliefs start to feel like a feature of the environment, a part of the experimental design, when really they are just in our head.

Fallout From Chronic Stress

Cortisol has become a popular punching bag recently and for good reason, although I think we've gone a bit too far. After all if it wasn't for cortisol I doubt half of us would ever get out of bed in the morning. But this stress hormone definitely has a dark side, along with it's sexy big brother adrenaline. Having too much chronic stress for too long is a very common contributor to depression, along with plenty of other health consequences like heart disease, obesity, and even diabetes. Biologists are still trying to figure out all the mechanics behind this but it looks like our immune system plays a major role in mediating this cascade.

Unlike "situational depression" where some major negative life change or event results fairly quickly in a depressed state, the relationship between chronic stress and depression can be a bit harder to understand in terms of timing. This is one reason why it can take so long for people to figure out how to manage their depression long term. Sometimes stress builds over time, maybe years, until depression starts at a time that might seem arbitrary. There's almost always some challenge present in life and people love to find cause-and-effect patterns so it's rarely hard to find a scapegoat that might obscure the real cause. For others, the timing of depression can follow the "finals effect". For those of you who went to college or grad school, or had a job that involved occasionally turning in massive assignments or presentations: did you ever notice how just after the big project or final exam you would often get sick? It can be very inconvenient because often you might have a big party or vacation planned but instead you spend several days nursing a cold or ear infection. Some people's bodies have a way of getting us through a challenge then immediately powering down when the challenge (and accompanying adrenaline) is gone. Think about how a marathoner might collapse onto the ground after a big race. When we push our body past what's healthy or comfortable, the compensatory resting state can also be extreme or unwanted.

For people suffering from certain chronic mental or physical health conditions I sometimes find the concept of "adrenaline addiction" to be useful. On the one hand, it's absolutely true that our attitude towards stress can powerfully change it's consequences... people who have a positive view of stressors (perhaps viewing them as exciting challenges to overcome) can tolerate stress better. But there are limits to this strategy. Think of it as the psychological law of thermodynamics: what goes up must come down. And some people lean into stress for other reasons, like maybe it feels like the only way to provide the energy, motivation, and focus to stay in motion and get things done. Adrenaline can powerfully provide these things, at a price. Some people use "workaholism" as a distraction from emotions, a way to avoid conflict, or strategy to avoid other unwanted emotions (sound familiar?). 

Adaptive Reaction

Often a prominent feature of early treatment is to encourage the client to label and understand their depression (or other mental illness) as something that is separate from them, like some invader or parasite that can be battled, boxed in, and eventually dispelled. This can be extremely helpful for some people and I think that the exercise always has value as a tool for introspection and building insight. But sometimes it fails spectacularly, for a variety of reasons. When this exercise fails one area I like to gently explore with the client is whether they see any advantages to their depression, or at least to the timing of it. This can be a difficult line of questioning for some people because it can reveal unwanted insight. But healing without this layer of self-knowledge can be like fighting with a blindfold on.

The field of evolutionary biology is a long way from fully explaining the causes of mental illness. But speculation into the possible adaptive advantages of of depression can be a helpful starting point if your goal is to reframe your depressive episode more positively. Perhaps depressive traits helped to put us into a resting state, a kind of quasi-hibernation, when food was seasonally scarce in winter or the dry season. Maybe depressive traits encouraged people to act less impulsively, to withdraw from action and think more deeply and realistically about problems, to "measure twice and cut once". Maybe depressive traits helped us identify situations in which a less aggressive presentation and attitude would keep us safe, to know when to quit when we were on the wrong end of a dominance hierarchy. I say depressive traits because I believe that full blown depressive episodes are often an overexpression of traits that in other contexts are clearly helpful. But to restate the above in more simple language...

Depression can help us identify the need for rest and healing. Depression can make our thinking more realistic. Depression can give us space to take a step back and fully explore a problem instead of acting impulsively. Depression can protect us from conflict. Depression can signal to the people around us that we are hurt and in need of care. Depression can help us identify and acknowledge our own weaknesses that we don't want to see. Depression can put you in check. No matter how barbaric it's consequences: depression is an opportunity for growth, whether we feel comfortable seeing it that way or not. Sometimes when you have wandered too far away from your authentic self, depression is the one voice that you cannot ignore that is calling you home.

I absolutely know that this way of thinking isn't for everyone. But if you don't understand the potential treatment advantage of positively reframing depression, you do not understand the illness.

Misplaced Coping

There's a proper place in the discussion for almost every familiar concept, but generally I think that the notion of "self sabotage" has been overused in our culture. Most of us believe that we're doing our best most of the time. And for most people, even most people who are undiagnosed and seem "healthy", doing our best means spending quite a bit of time and energy coping with unwanted thoughts, feelings, sensations, and other difficult mental phenomena. Some people are lucky that early in life they develop a toolbox of extremely effective and appropriate coping skills that serve them well throughout their lives, probably with occasional readjustment. But that same toolbox doesn't work for everyone. Sometimes a person has great tools but a situation will arise in their life that requires a tool they don't happen to have and that will be their first experience of full blown mental illness. This can be one of the easiest kinds of case to treat, so easy in fact that very often these people find ways to heal themselves without professional help. What I see more often in my office is people who are overusing tools that served them well in other situations but are now doing them damage. They are hammering the same nail until the board starts to crack. This is what I mean by misplaced coping.

Coping skills can take many forms. The easiest to understand are cognitive and behavioral. Many of the cognitive ones get labelled by CBT therapists as cognitive distortions. You can find long lists of cognitive distortions online but one of the most applicable to depression is negative-biased mental filtering. Negative-biased mental filtering is essentially when you tend to abandon positive thoughts and examine negative thoughts more closely. When your mood and outlook is generally positive this can be very helpful. Think about when you're editing a long email. If you read a sentence that's good and doesn't need changes then once you identify that the best thing to do is move on quickly to the next sentence. But when you find a mistake or poor phrasing, that is something that warrants attention and further thought. So efficient people tend to do a ton of this kind of mental filtering. Another way of framing this trait is saying you have a "critical eye". It's extremely valuable in almost every profession and when it's rewarded it can become a default way of operating. But when your mood and outlook become negative the over-exercise of negative-biased mental filtering can pave the road to depression. It isn't helpful to carefully examine and investigate every self-critical thought when you are constantly flooded with them. But it's the automatic dismissal of positive thoughts that can make this kind of mental filtering so destructive.

Behaviors are more concrete and easier to understand but sometimes it can be harder to identify when they have become counter-productive. Maybe you love going to the gym at night. You aren't a morning person and the idea of an AM workout sounds like a war crime. You love how quiet and peaceful the gym is at night and it helps you get in the zone. Something changes and you become depressed. You don't enjoy your workouts as much but they're the only thing you look forward to because the rest of your life is much worse, the gym is your comfort zone. You feel restless all night, your mind going non-stop searching for faults and tearing you apart. After just a few hours of sleep you peel yourself out of bed feeling leaden and drained, walking through your workday like a zombie. Only in late afternoon do you start to perk up, looking forward to dinner and the gym. But as soon as you leave the gym your mind starts to attack you and the cycle repeats. Many people assessing this situation wouldn't give a second thought to the evening workouts as a maladaptive coping skill. After all, exercise is well known as a great treatment for depression and why would you disrupt the one thing that a depressed person seems to enjoy? But from the way I framed this case study I bet you can understand how it's possible that the gym routine described here might be feeding a bad cycle. Sometimes something shifts and a behavior that was once a centerpiece of our mental wellness can reinforce patterns that lead to depression.


I have only scratched the surface here in terms of causal theories for depression and I may dive into others in the future, but aside from medical and biological models the ideas above are the most important for framing my own treatment approach. If you care to comment I would love to hear from you about a way of understanding your depression or other mental illness that was especially useful. Take care.

Sleep Problems and Adult ADHD

Insomnia isn't a diagnostic symptom of ADHD like it can be for depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. Some adults with ADHD have problem-free sleep, and might even see sleep as a rare refuge from the waking challenges of the disorder. But there's little doubt that folks with ADHD tend to struggle a bit more with sleep than the average "neurotypical" and in many cases the symptoms can directly interfere with healthy sleep in predictable ways. In this post I'm going to review some of the more common reasons that the ADHD-diagnosed struggle with sleep and hint at a few possible solutions. I'll mostly focus on difficulty falling asleep, which seems to be the issue that is more common and pronounced with this diagnosis.

Direct Effects Of General Hyperactivity

It's not hard to draw a straight line between the symptoms of hyperactivity, whether subjective or behavioral, and being alert, aroused, active, and AWAKE. Sitting still in bed can be just as difficult as sitting still at a desk if intense hyperactivity hits at bedtime or in the middle of the night. Physical and mental restlessness can feel overwhelming when there is nothing external to focus on, and thoughts can come rapidly. If a partner is present, constant fidgeting and adjustment can get you kicked out of bed.

Luckily not everyone who experiences hyperactivity tends to be especially symptomatic at bedtime. Often times the "engine" will run out of fuel by then. Looking at levels of stimulation and physical activity is key in understanding how to control nighttime hyperactivity but it's easy to overgeneralize. For some people what is important is to get as much total mental and physical stimulation over the course of the day to get tired out. For others, excessive stimuli can get them "wound up" and it is important to find strategies for calming or limiting stimulation starting in the late afternoon or evening. In general limiting certain types of intense stimuli (especially electronics) just before bedtime is important, although that's true of almost everyone. The effects of evening exercise are unpredictable: it can be a positive tool for some, while for others it can stoke hyperactivity like nothing else.

When simple hyperactivity is causing sleep problems, that is the one situation where bedtime stimulant medication might be considered. Always consult with your psychiatrist before trying an unconventional dosing strategy. But people who are strongly hyperactive, especially those who have a predominantly hyperactive-type diagnosis, sometimes become calmer or even drowsy with the right dose of medication. Early in my career I worked at a foster facility for severely emotionally disturbed teenagers. In general I felt that many of them were severely overmedicated, but one big exception was the residents with ADHD who took a bedtime stimulant dose. It would calm them without knocking them out or making them groggy in the morning. On occasion residents would run out of meds, refuse their meds, or "cheek" them to trade with other residents. This would generally result in a very hyper, and very unrestful, night for them.

Circadian Shift And "Eveningness"

This issue might be a little more controversial, but just a little. Nearly every Psychiatrist I have spoken with acknowledges that adults with ADHD tend overall to have patterns of activation that tend to peak later than average. In common parlance this is called being a Night Owl, but it's also something that many of us experience as teenagers or young adults then grow out of, starting to experience more morning preference and desire for earlier bedtimes with age. Much of this is based on social conditioning and work-life demands, but not all of it. Some people's bodies send signals that make it easier to stay up late, harder to get to sleep early, and much more difficult to awaken and become active in the morning. People with ADHD are much more likely to fall into that category. And I want to emphasize: this isn't just true for people with hyperactive symptoms. It's true of predominantly inattentives too.

There's three silver linings here. The first is that there's not necessarily anything wrong with being a Night Owl. Arguably, being able to stay up late makes you inherently cool. If you can adapt your lifestyle to suit a late bedtime and wakeup, this really isn't an issue. The problem is that oftentimes life (bosses, partners, children, dogs, cats) want us to live in the harsh light of morning. The second silver lining is that generally the same approaches that help non-ADHD Night Owls work for their diagnosed brethren. These include morning lightbox therapy, increasing sun exposure during the day, vitamin D, melatonin, and limiting light exposure (especially blue lights) towards bedtime. The third silver lining is that working on circadian issue might help your ADHD symptoms, but no promises there.

If sleep problems predictably get worse during a certain time of year, be it summer or winter, that can be a pretty good sign that there's a circadian component. Unlike with depression where (if there's a seasonal pattern at all) winter tends to be worse, this type of sleep issue could be exaggerated in either season depending on your unique configuration.

Hyperfocus And Poor Routine

There are elements in this section that I think most ADHD sufferers will relate to. Ask any sleep expert about effective treatments for insomnia and I doubt any of them will make it three sentences without using the word "routine", often paired with "bedtime". People with ADHD have wildly varying opinions on routine. Many feel that the monotony and sameness produced by routine is the perpetual enemy, the cause of all boredom, the killer of motivation, the wellspring of all brain fog. Others swear that routine has saved their life, it is the only way to make their unpredictable mind conform to the demands of this world, and calm and prosperity follow in it's wake. But one thing that most people with ADHD can agree upon is that maintaining routine is a challenge. The symptoms of the disorder act in ways that undermine routine.

Distractability is a huge enemy of routine. A cartoonish but incredibly common example: it's easy to get distracted and forget to go to bed! But even more banal distractions can stretch out nighttime activities of all kinds in ways that push back bedtime. Impulsivity is also a big factor. Night can feel like a relatively consequence-free time to chase whims, and you can always make up sleep tomorrow night. Or the next night. Etcetera. Arousal levels in ADHD tend to be very tightly correlated with interest levels. And often obligatory daytime activities are inherently uninteresting almost by definition. So the day is spent in a sheepish, sluggish, muddled haze. Then night comes and the freedom exists to do something ACTUALLY INTERESTING. The mind awakens. Mood improves. And it's time to shut the lights out? I'm sure you see the problem.

Not everybody with ADHD even can hyperfocus if they try much less do it unintentionally, but this tendency can make everything far worse at bedtime. Say a hypothetical guy with a tendency to hyperfocus (John Foci) fights distractions and temptations to finish his chores and dinner and get ready for bed at a reasonable time. He's in bed but his mind is still a little spun from the day so John decides to give in to his urges just a little and check out some scores or watch a video on his phone. Everybody knows playing with the phone just before bed isn't the best thing for sleep but for many people, even many with ADHD, it's also no big deal. Not so for John. Sometime around 3 AM John becomes suddenly aware of his surroundings, staring at one of the strangest websites he has ever seen. "How did I even get here?" John thinks. A search of his browser history reveals a classic 'Wikipedia rabbithole' that somehow burrowed through topics as diverse as the topography of Guyana, Detroit proto-punk, Catholic Biblical Apologetics, and an overview of non-reproductive sexual practices in the family Mustelidae. John is screwed at work tomorrow.

This is a big topic, too big to do justice in this overview. My point is really that ADHD symptoms can cause problems for sleep functioning in fairly similar ways that they can impair functioning in other domains of everyday life. Sleep takes up time and it involves tasks. If it isn't prioritized, that has consequences. Rather than financial or social consequences, consistently failing to sleep enough will usually have symptomatic consequences. Poor sleep means poor focus, and poor focus can lead to bad sleep. As life responsibilities and demands on time and attention escalate, this snake can slowly eat it's own tail, as symptoms become less and less manageable. This is often part of the fulcrum that brings people in to treatment. And often times it is the more global skills of time-management, task-management, impulse control, routine, and organization that "fix" sleep over time in the same way that they can fix problems at work or in relationships. It's a slog. I know, sounds boring to me too. You want a silver lining? Sometimes the crash of coming off medications can make you really sleepy if you time it right.

Various Substances

First off, ADHD medications can absolutely cause insomnia in some people. If you think that might be you, absolutely involve your psychiatrist or PCP in the conversation, and don't do anything without their approval. The easiest fix is to dose earlier, especially with any kind of extended relief preparation. Some people even set an extra alarm, take their meds, and snooze for awhile before wakeup. A change in medication could definitely be worth a try, but a dosage reduction could also definitely be in order. If you are in the habit of taking "holidays" from medication this could be contributing to the insomnia because it is decreasing tolerance. Whatever the fix, in the long term tolerating insomnia to get the effects of a high dose of medication is not worth it. Your health is too important to burn the candle at both ends that way.

People with ADHD are more likely to use, and use higher amounts of, basically any drug. There are lots of reasons for that and I won't go into it here but just trust me, it's true. Unlike stimulant medications which can affect sleep in a variety of ways, caffeine and nicotine tend to be bad for sleep when taken late. Even in these cases there's some outliers, but treating medication crashes with night coffee is a very suspect practice. Alcohol, marijuana, and other recreational drugs often seem like they help with sleep but usually they are degrading it substantially, especially when it comes to the high-quality REM sleep that is most regenerative. But this is true for everyone.

I'm going to engage in a bit of speculation in this last section about a possible issue for people with ADHD using depressants. It's based on clinical experience but I haven't found research or other corroboration to back it up. Here's what we do know:

(1) The treatment of ADHD with stimulants, and in fact the overall understanding of the disorder, has historically been based on something called the "paradoxical reaction" to stimulants. Stimulants should be expected to increase activity level but it was found that for many children who were already very hyperactive, stimulants decreased their activity level and seemed to calm and slow them. Probably a bit too much was made of this paradoxical reaction, Psychiatry is famously prone to overreach and overgeneralization. In fact many children who are not hyperactive still become more sedate when given a dopaminergic stimulant, and many of the benefits that an average ADHD suffer gets from medication are the same benefits that a person with normal attention would get if given the same medication. Still, there is definitely a tendency for those with ADHD to be less stimulated by stimulants, and in some cases to experience aspects of sedation from stimulants.

(2) It's also fairly common for people to experience a "paradoxical reaction" to depressants. Many people will take a downer and become excited, boisterous, and rowdy. Arguably most people have at least some paradoxical effects from a low enough dose of alcohol. Generally this is seen as being mostly due to impulse inhibition and mood lift, and it makes a bit of sense given alcohol's complex pharmacology. But there are also much weirder and rarer cases of people becoming very restless and agitated on high doses of sedatives like Ativan, even leading to angry outbursts and aggression. Marijuana can be a very unreliable sedative, often leading to anxiety, racing thoughts, and increased heartrate, although much of this depends on dose and strain. The same is true for opiates, which some people find quite invigorating despite their usual reputation as quite soporific.

So here's the more speculative bit: I think people with ADHD are more likely to experience a paradoxical reaction to sedatives as well, especially less reliably sedating sedatives like alcohol, marijuana, and opiates. Drugs can alleviate boredom. This is cited again and again by users but especially users with ADHD, who are often more drawn to depressants because they associate stimulants with a treatment effect rather than a recreational effect. Like I mentioned above, levels of overall arousal and activation for those with ADHD can be really tightly tied to levels of interest or perceptual stimuli. In those with ADHD the boost in arousal associated with relief of boredom could more often be powerful enough to overcome the more inherently sedating effects of these drugs. I've definitely seen anecdotal evidence of this in clients and acquaintances with the diagnosis. If it's true that there is an association there, it should give extra pause to people with ADHD about using recreational sedatives near bedtime. I'd be very interested in paradoxical reactions to sedatives that you have experienced in the past if you have an ADHD diagnosis.

Can you tell I'm rabbitholing?

Exercise vs Diet: A Mood Perspective

I'm not a dietitian, nutritionist, or personal trainer. I'm a talk therapist, a mental health counselor. But time after time, clients who first sought my help with all kinds of other goals and issues will ask me about diet, exercise, and weight loss. I used to treat these questions the same way I treat many others: as a curious agnostic, encouraging clients to explore their feelings about these issues and supporting them in pursuing whatever goals they identified. But when it comes to those also struggling with depressed moods, I'm no longer an agnostic. I encourage my clients to focus on increasing exercise and physical activity first and foremost, and put diet and weight monitoring firmly in the backseat.

Why? Short answer, because exercise will reliably make you feel better. Dieting and weight monitoring are decidedly mixed bags. And helping people improve their moods is pretty core to my job description.

The only real "downside" to exercise as a treatment for depression is that so many of the common symptoms of depression (low energy, indecision, lack of interest, low motivation, poor focus, body pains) make it harder to exercise. However, somewhat counter-intuitively, exercise can very quickly improve those same symptoms. Why is it so important that the mood and symptom improvement can be so rapid, even if this change sometimes feels fleeting? Because  this restores a feeling that actions and decisions matter. It's harder to feel hopeless, helpless, or powerless when actions lead (even unreliably) to rapid, unambiguous results.

When I say that changing diet is a mixed bag, I especially mean dieting, or calorie reduction/restriction. Eating less, all other things being equal, will probably make you feel worse in the short term. The kind of self-monitoring required to resist food urges will turn into self-punishment, and even if you succeed in your diet it's easy to become your own worst enemy in the process. If you're depressed and lucky enough to have an appetite, food might be one of the few sources of pleasure and reward you have left, so consider treating a bit of comfort eating with more self-compassion than guilt. Weight monitoring is even worse, because it makes you attend to numbers that, on a day-to-day basis, are usually more noise than signal.

None of this is to say that changing the content of your diet can't have very positive effects on mood. It absolutely can. The problem is that response to diet is highly individualized. So there might be quite a bit of trial-and-error before you figure out which foods make you feel better. This can be worthwhile, and if you're serious about it I recommend that you undertake this process of inquiry with the help of a nutritionist, Naturopath, or similar professional. But also keep in mind that if you are in the process of making other changes to your treatment, or major transitions/adjustments in your life, it can be very difficult to identify the effects of diet on mood. There are so many variables.

Why Is Therapy Useful for Insomnia?

Since so many people deal with sleep issues with a visit to the pharmacy, the supplement aisle, their primary care physician, or even an overnight sleep clinic, it might be surprising that insomnia is one of the issues that responds best to therapy. The core reasons therapy is good for sleep are fairly straightforward: distress about being awake can make it hard to fall asleep, and some people have developed bedtime routines that sabotage their sleep. It's these kinds of "Catch 22" problems that therapy can be most useful for, where we don't fully realize the extent to which we are putting barriers in our own way. Radical change is possible, but most people are so heavily invested in their current perspective that an outsider can rapidly identify changes in behavior and outlook that will easily resolve the issue; and sometimes finding the motivation to follow through on these changes takes little more than hearing another person say what on some level we already know to be true.

If you have the time and want to learn more, click the link at the bottom of this post. I go into depth explaining a range of sleep-related topics such as sleep debt, "paleo sleep", and some basic cognitive approaches to insomnia in a guest podccast with one of the coaches from Leadership Lab LLC.

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